‘Sorry, the guest list is closed': Bride Refuses to Accept ‘Wedding Etiquette’ When Her Old Friend Group Demands to Be Invited to the Wedding

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    AITA for not inviting my ex best friend to my wedding even though I was the MOH at hers?
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    I (31F) had a friend Maria (31F) growing up. We met when we were about 8 or 9, and quickly became best friends. We started slowly growing apart in high school as our schedules
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    changed and almost completely lost touch during college. By the time we were ~23, we only saw each other once a year at Christmas for our old friend group's Christmas dinner.
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    Maria got engaged to her high school sweetheart and asked me to be her maid of honor in the wedding. At the time she asked me, we had not seen or spoken to each other in almost
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    2 years, so it honestly shocked me when she asked, but I agreed. She asked me about a year before the wedding, and after she asked me to be MOH, she did not speak to me again
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    for 6 months. I had taken it to mean maybe she wanted to rekindle our friendship and reached out a few times during those 6 months to meet up for lunch or hang out, but she never responded.
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    When she finally texted me, it was to meet up with her and her best friend (one of the bridesmaids) to pick out the dresses for the bridal party. She showed up 3 HOURS LATE.
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    Apparently, she and her friend decided to meet up for lunch and to hang out before meeting me at the mall, completely ignoring our agreed upon time and the fact that I had already
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    said I was there and waiting for them. I'm not going to go into details of the next 6 months leading up to the wedding, but that should give you an idea of how it went. By the time the wedding day came, I genuinely felt so used and disrespected.
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    On the day of the wedding, Maria was just mean. I waited until the speeches and the first dance were over, then I left the reception and went home. I have not spoken to her since.
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    It's been about 4 years since her wedding, and I am now engaged and getting married in 2 months. I did not invite Maria or any of our old friend group. In my mind, our friendship is well and truly dod. Apparently,
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    Maria ran into my sister at a store and were chatting and my sister mentioned the wedding. Maria texted me (honestly shocked she still has my number) to send me her address “so I knew where to
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    send her invitation” and I just responded "thank you, but the guest list is already set. have a nice day". She told the friend group and now they're all blowing up my phone about inviting them 'for old time's
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    sake' and that I owe at least Maria an invitation because I was her MOH. They've been posting on social media and now even my mom is getting involved, saying I should invite
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    them all just to keep the peace and out of respect for our old friendship. My argument is that I haven't spoken to them in years, and I don't care about this 'wedding etiquette' thing and I don't owe
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    her an invitation just because I was her MOH, especially considering everything that happened with her wedding. But literally only my fiancé is on my side. So, AITA?
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    ZhuzhZhuzhZhuzh. 13 hr. ago Then your fiancé is proving to be excellent spouse material! NTA. Invitations aren't memorials for old friendships that have come to the end of their
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    existence. They're for the people who love you, support you, and will be in your life for years to come. And their dates. And maybe a few awkward relatives.
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    Tinkerpro · 13 hr. ago First conversation is to shut mom down. Tell her the guest list is set and you are happy with it. She doesn't have to like or understand your decision, seh merely needs to accept it and stop brining it up.
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    As for the rest, there is no argument to be had. Ignore them. There is no “respect for old friendships" necessary. No response, block them.
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    Nobody ButMyShadow ⚫ 9 hr. ago NTA - What "peace" would you be keeping with people that you haven't had any contact with for four years? Why do you need to honor friendships that ended years ago?
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    Waste_Coat_4506 · 13 hr. ago Partassipant [2] I'm so confused why she wanted you to be MOH if she already had a best friend. Are you wealthy? Did she maybe want you to plan/pay for things like the shower or bachelorette party? Whatever the case NTA.
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    jmbbl 13 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [47] NTA. Who sends a text message to someone they haven't spoken to in years and just assumes they're invited? Your response was fine. Let her be mad.
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    Reasonable-Ad-3605 13 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [39] NTA, I can see why you moved on from them.
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    SL8Rgirl 12 hr. ago It's a wedding not a class reunion. NTA.

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